Hooking up and awkward moments

[sexybeast]

Ok, I get that we should always use condoms etc and that it's important to be safe, but what about those times when you meet a guy, things are going really good and you don't want to ruin it by saying "hey, so do you have hiv?" I mean, it's easier online, you just put your status in your profile or ask "are you ddf?" but what about when you meet a guy at a bar or something? It's not always so cut and dry.